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Commitment capable and marriage minded individuals who are emotionally, physically, financially, mentally and spiritual ready for and worthy of the responsibilities and blessings of temple marriage now and who seek so to do.
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What is realistic preparation prior to marriage? What does it honestly take for a marriage to survive? Emotionally, physically, spiritually, mentally and financially? How can single individuals be…Continue
Started by Julia Simmons. Last reply by MichelleLynn Honeman Aug 23, 2011.
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Comment by Dorene J. Stamper yesterday
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Since the eve of May 4th, 2012, only 25-days ago, this group has become a whining board for one member. There are a total of 56-whines, and I can't take even one more before I'll explode. So I'm bidding you a fond farewell. I pray that all of you will find your heart's desire in a mate, one where you both can love, honor and respect each other, and to live happily ever after in the grace of our Heavenly Father. So may God go with you and with America. I'm no longer a member of this group.
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Praiseworthy. . .he dumped you so get over it and move forward.
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Comment by Virginia Kay McConkie on Sunday
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Sending hugs to you hun
Did you want to have kids or were you against it? Perhaps he just wanted kids so badly and you were just not ready....
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It's sad when a divorced spouse has a strong desire for their 'ex' to remain in their lives. Marriage is a play where both actors must help the other look and feel their best. You must love, honor and respect your spouse, but never to smother them with demands of 100% togetherness. Once divorced if there's any chance that they'll wish to return then separation is the best thing. Let them think about you and the good times you've had together. Then if there's still a spark within their heart they'll come to you. If there's no room for you in their life, then love yourself enough to move on.
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Comment by Marianne McGee on May 16, 2012 at 7:13pm -
I hope that he wasnt suggesting that you were the one with the weaknesses if it was your husband who left you. Of course we all play a part in our respective divorces but if one partner decides to leave the marriage the other partner should not automatically be blamed.
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I agree with Marianne 100% Why deny yourself the blessings of marriage with someone who you might miss out on if you keep beating yourself up. You learn from your mistakes and move on. Yes the pain will take awhile to get over but when your greiving is over you will find someone who fits you better then anyone else. I am sure your ex isnt going to sit and wait. He will probably move on as should you. It is a shame that it ended but hun you will find that special someone who makes you feel like the world has stopped and the only two that exist is you and him. Dont give up.. Pray, fast, ponder, your questions will be answered.
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Ginger
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Comment by Marianne McGee on May 16, 2012 at 1:11pm
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Now you are talking! As a victim of broken covenants you are certainly justified to dust yourself off and start over, especially if it was your husband who broke them and left. The Lord gives all of us the chance to start over! Thank goodness!
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Comment by Marianne McGee on May 16, 2012 at 12:19pm
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Ah, OK, so what you are saying is that because we were not able to commit to someone in a first marriage that we are cooked and finished for life, destined to stay on our own forever? Doesn't that go a little against certain gospel principles? Don't we live in a gospel that tells us that we can learn from our mistakes, change and get back up again to try again? And then isn't it in fact a righteous desire to want to be sealed for eternity to someone so that we are able to enter the highest kingdom of celestial glory? Are you saying that once a person has made a mistake that this is no longer possible? I hope not because that would make a nonsense of the very essence of our gospel.
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Comment by Marianne McGee on May 16, 2012 at 4:55am
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Hi Praiseworthy, what you are experiencing is totally normal for anyone who is going through a divorce. The fact that you are still feeling loyal to your first husband is an indication that you are still in the denial stage of the grieving process. It is just too hard for our minds and spirits to accept the loss and so we find some way of persuading ourselves that it really isn't happening, even if we tell ourselves the reality every day. This is painful and your mind is needing time to adjust to the new situation. It will hang onto the old understandings until you are truly ready to move on. On this site there is an article on the grieving process that you will find under the heading relationships that will describe what to expect in getting over the divorce. I hope it will be of some help to you. Send me a note if you have any questions. This is a great place here to share and get over some of this stuff! Take care. PS You are right, you can't commit to someone new while you still haven't gotten over the old.
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My Dearest Praisworthy
Hun if he has ended it there really isnt much else you can do. You can try to recitify the situation and work towards getting back together but if he is blatent against it you must move on. I know it is hard when you love someone so very much. But you can love again just as strongly if not more. My suggestion to you is to try to reconcile with your ex but if he is totally unwilling then put yourself before the Lord and follow his adivice. The pain will end in due time but you must be patient and know that if you dont find eternal marriage in this life.. you will find it in the next if you keep living worthily.
hugs tight
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Rebekah's Motherly Influence
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Written by Julia Simmons for GAGASAINTS, May, 2012
There once was a woman named Rebekah, who was at a well, getting water during Bible times. She had no idea she was an answer to prayers for the man near by. She offered to get him and his camels water. He was amazed at this virgin, who no man had known. Before she left, the same man approached her and asked her who she was, then put jewelry on her, met her brother, went to her house and proposed a plan whereby she would marry the son (Isaac) of his master (Abraham). Yes, daddy Abraham needed grandchildren! After all, he was told he would have a tremendous posterity!
Meanwhile, Isaac went to the field to meditate. To his delight, she arrived, got off the camel, veiled her face and was brought to his tent where she became his beloved wife. He was forty years old when he married her. He loved her. However, she didn’t have children until he prayed to God asking for her to get pregnant. She struggled during the pregnancy and was told by God that two nations wrestled inside of her. Can you imagine? She was told that the younger one would rule over the older one.
However, Isaac favored the older one and would have given him the greater blessing if it was not for Rebekah’s wise intervention. She told Jacob to get some meat so she could cook it and she put together an outfit that would feel and smell like the other son. The younger one, who received the blessing, was named Jacob. She had to warn him about his brother, Esau’s, anger toward him. He was obedient and went to stay with her brother for a while.
Later, she mourned because Esau was not married to righteous women. She begged her husband to help Jacob marry a righteous woman, even if she lived farther away. Her husband listened to her. Jacob married beautiful Rachel soon after. Rachel’s son Joseph was his favorite, so this made his other kids jealous and they sold him to the Egyptians. Meanwhile, Rachel was told that he was dead. While Joseph was in Egypt, she had another son.
Joseph’s children became heirs of great blessings and many of his descendants are Latter Day Saints today. What would have come of all of this had Rebekah not had faith to marry someone she did not know? What would have happened if she had not insisted that her son marry a worthy woman? Would Joseph ever had been born? Would the 12 tribes of Israel even exist (they were created by Jacob’s 12 sons, who he had through Leah, Rachel and their servants).
Rebekah’s faithfulness has helped to bring about millions of lives into the gospel. She did as her mother and brother had hoped when they said, “…be thou the mother of thousands of millions and let they seed possess the gate of those which hate them.” 1. She is likely great grandmother of yours; a mother you can call your own, who loves you, wants the best for you and did all she could to save your soul. Bless Rebekah and may our lives honor her through the way we live our faith today.
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1)Genesis 24:60
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